Category: Dating and Relationships
So you're dating someone who seems really nice, but then something happens or you discover a side to them that guarantees you wont be going on anymore dates.
for me it would be any number of cuddly toys greater than 5 (especially if they.re on the bed) or having more cats than DVDs.
what's yours?
A man who still lives with his mother after 30.
Oooh, here's a perfect example of wishing I could take a post back. I actually know some very nice men who live with their mothers. I guess what would scare me off is a man who lets his mother, or any member of his family control him too much.
Becky, mommy says to tell you hi.
Any girl who wanted to control my life. I expect to share my life in a relationship, not surrender it.
Bob
Any guy who does not treat his guide dog, pets, sibblings, children, etc well. Any guy who has a truly filthy living space, and or any guy who has more sports items than practical bathroom, kitchen and cleaning items combined. Hey, Me wuvs stuffed animals. (looks sad) well, no, Dusty Bin, for me then. lol
Well, there's certain points of view, that will come up in conversation, that turn me right off, that I just can't seem to get past. It's narrow-minded and bad, but there it is.
As for practical, home type things? A national flag prominantly on display somewhere. Any flag. I'm out. Possibly also if the play station has pride of place in the home.
Oh, and really obsessively neat people freak me out a little, but that's probably because it's an alien concept to me and I'm guaranteed to drive them mad with clutter.
If your as wierd as i am then we'll get along great. View profile for more deatails. LOL
Anyways, right well for me I look for honesty, loyalty, and trust. If you have them then you may stand a chance with me. Those are the keys that makes a relationship work, without those a relationship is bound to head for a Doomsday Break-Up.
I have to add whoch are other things I dislike and that is drinking, smoking, and drugs. I myself have chosen to take such measures in not participating in such nonsense and hope whoever I'm with respects my decision and requests on these things, and follow, as it may set a good example for the children if there are any in the near future.
Ooh! Ooh! Ooh! *raises hand in that teacher-look-at-me! kind of way* I've got another one!
Anybody who refers to their cats or dogs as "my babies". Just ... no.
Like Resonant said, it may be narrow-minded, but come on, this is a life-choice, people! *grin*
and as for PassionateAndNaturalArtist, just think of the years of misery you've been spared (read my profile) lol
keep 'em coming people!
Oh yes, anyone who will spend our time together trying to convert me to their way of believing, or their politics.
I'll argue religion or politics with you almost any time any place, but I won't engage in a meaningful relationship with you, cause I ain't your toy. I'm my own person with my own ideas.
Bob
Bob, bring your mom to the revival I'm having at my place on Sunday. I guarantee you'll both be converts in no time at all.
And Dusty, I refer to my cat as my baby boy. So I guess that's it for us, huh? Darn.
Having said that, I generally only do it when I'm alone with the cat. I don't include him in conversations with others like some people do with their pets and guide dogs. Now that drives me crazy.
Oh dear, I have another one.
Any woman (and it does tend to be women, who knows why?) who displays an over-reliance in the attributes of astrology in deciding what I'm like, rather than, I don't know, getting to know me. In fact just asking my star-sign will do it.
Yes, I AM an intolerant git. I know this, and I live with it ...
I started to say you must be a Gemini or a Liebra (lady), but these zoners might get offended.
Actually, you seem like a Tores to me.
Am I right? Hurry and answer--the future of this topic depends on it.
Bob
lol. This topick is really good. I saw it before but i thought it was about stuffed animals and didn't click on it lol. But today i saw that it was in dating and relationships and i decided to look at it.
I wouldn't like to go out with somebody who texts or speaks to the mobile most of the time when we are together. Or another thing that noys me is ringing somebody and not paying attention because they might watch television or chat on the internet etc. In other words multitasking. I don't mind when people can actually multitask but when they can't and they ignore you it's anoying. Anyway i still didn't understand what this topick has to do with stuffed annimals lol. It might be a new expression for me to learn.
Any woman who use to be a man, will just about do it for me. Heh. And Any phonecall which starts so, what you doing, enough times, followed by that pause that means you've really got nothing to say and your only calling me because your bord, and looking for someone to fill that bordum, will do it for me too.
Nem-
Nikos, I believe Dusty was saying that he doesn't like women who have a lot of stuffed animals. No new expression.
So come on Dusty, answer Bob's question about your star sign. Then maybe we can add the two of you to the post about zone couples.
If he calls me to talk on the phone/voice chat and also ends up talking to other people at the same time; that makes me feel like he's not really interested in talking to me. Or if we can't have a real conversation; shyness I can understand, but if I ask a question or make a comment, I would want something more than a one-word response, unless it's like a facial expression or something. Also, if he says "I love you" too early into the relationship; I know that phrase is important, but minutes or even just a few days into it, to me, is weird, and don't expect me to reply with "I love you too" if that's what is expected a few days into the relationship; I'll likely say it eventually, but not that early in the relationship. Or if he kept insisting on wanting to make out/have sex after I told him no. Also, if he starts behaving possessively, or really puts me or loved ones down, even jokingly. Also if he is generally rude like burping/farting at the table or around me on purpose or without trying to cover it up, or cussing during a conversation.
I don't like men who are controlling, or men who are really clingy..
Materialistically, I can't think of anything that I would end a relationship over. If he has a hobby or likes collecting a certain thing, that's fine. I guess just as long as it doesn't totally take over his life or something. But if it's something like cross-dressing or a weird fetish like feet or something, I don't think I could deal with that sort of thing.
yep living with his mother would certainly put me off. not least because if he still lives with his mother at 30 then mummy probably also would have a hard time letting go and mother in laws come with men...
not big on astrology either. and ...
I think the number of sexual partners would also be a factor.
SugarBaby, do you mean previous or current partners? <lol>
Bob
lol bob. no the number of previous partners would possibly put me off.
But I'm talking excessive partners here - possibly more than ... 10?
o...k. I refer to my little dog as my "baby boy", cause, well, he's the closest thing my parents are getting from me in regards to grandchildren. Seeing as how I don't want to have any human ones of my own. I don't incorperate him in to convo's though, but...on the other things, not much turns me off guys, but if they smoke or something, I'd prefer that they go outside and fill the air out their, and not inside. Also, unclean, and messy unkept houses, yuck!! real turn off! plus if they smell real bad! like as in not shower for a while, or smell like they havent!
someone who has to make time for me because there mom does not like me.
Too much interest in my bank account christ they'd get a shock and I'm not kidding.
Endless moaning about the last poor bugger who only got away by using
a restraining order.
When a girl goes on and on about her past relationships.
It's a turn off.
Oh my God Speedie, yes yes yes yes yes!!!
And you too Margorp, so true. I don't mind hearing about ex-partners but not to the point of forensic examination of why things went wrong and how she managed to embed the tracking device under his skin.
Oh, and you probably shouldn't have a shrine to him either ...
What? Shrines are bad? Someone should really tell us these things! *kicks life-sized replicas under the carpet*
I know somebody already mentioned cats, and I actually quite like cats themselves, but cat people, you know, the kind who are really, really cat people, I'm talking, just noodles for my dinner, but Mr Tibbles gets cranky if he doesn't have his oysters, or, I just had to call and tell you about this darling thing Fluffykins is doing, kind of cat people. Scare me a tiny bit.
Oh, and I meant to add, I reckon Dusty's a Virgo. *ducks and runs*
Bad breath turns me off. Now I know everyone has it from time to time, but I've met people with chronic bad breath, and I just wouldn't be able to date someone like that.
Just hand them a mint.
Sometimes a mint isn't strong enough. Some people need industrial strength mouth wash, and they need to gargle it all day long. LOL
lol yea libra
just trying to get to 100 posts
Things I don't deal with too well:
Transsexuals
Clingy and emotional wrecks
Talking to the guy and getting the feeling he's only half-listening
Expecting me to change the way I am for him
Having absolutely nothing in common
Hmm, that'll do it for now. Maybe I'll come up with more later.
re the stuffed animals thing, I have more than five, so I'm obsessed right? well, no, if you et me, you'd never find out about the collection because I don't mension it in public. The only time you'd find out about it is if you mensioned you had soft toys yourself, then I'd let the cat out of the bag. Well several cats maybe. *smile* re relationships, I suppose I'd be turned off by those whoforce their views on me, try to change my way of tc.
a socialist